I’ve heard before about people involved in a ‘toxic-relationship’. To describe it briefly, it’s a relationship where one or both of the partner being abusive, either physically or emotionally. Those that I heard about usually happens to girls who have boyfriends that keeps hurting their feelings and have fights all the time but no physical contact occur though. Maybe reasons why I don’t hear any complain from the male side is because of their ‘male-ego’ or maybe they are more secretive creature and don’t air their laundry in public.
Anyway, the stories that I want to talk about is not that occurs in a romantic relationship as in boyfriend-girlfriend situation. It’s in a friendship dynamics. Of course it’s a personal experience. I have a friend (no need to named name) who has been friends with me for over 5 years. You can say that we are close friends; we share secrets that others don’t know about, well at least on my part. But lately due to unavoidable circumstances, we no longer able to see each other’s often.
So since I miss hanging out with her I call her a couple of time since earlier this week. But to my frustration she did not answer any of my call. I try a few times more and still no answer. Since I’m calling on her hand-phone, surely there must be a ‘miss-called’ sign on her phone but she never returned any of my call. She’s using prima so no excuse of low–credit applicable in this situation. I was getting worried, thinking maybe she’s in trouble or maybe sick. Finally, I send her a text message asking how she has been doing and so on…and still no reply. After that, I just stop trying… I just STOP!
The think about this whole situation is that no matter how angry I am at her behavior or how frustrated I get with her treatment, I still forgive her in the end. She just said sorry and gives some lame excuse and I would forgive her and drop the subject instead of probing it further. * Sigh… No matter how much she hurt me, I still forgive her and go on as if nothing happen. When would it be I be able to say enough to her and demand that she‘ll be more sensitive with other people’s feeling.
Anyway, the stories that I want to talk about is not that occurs in a romantic relationship as in boyfriend-girlfriend situation. It’s in a friendship dynamics. Of course it’s a personal experience. I have a friend (no need to named name) who has been friends with me for over 5 years. You can say that we are close friends; we share secrets that others don’t know about, well at least on my part. But lately due to unavoidable circumstances, we no longer able to see each other’s often.
So since I miss hanging out with her I call her a couple of time since earlier this week. But to my frustration she did not answer any of my call. I try a few times more and still no answer. Since I’m calling on her hand-phone, surely there must be a ‘miss-called’ sign on her phone but she never returned any of my call. She’s using prima so no excuse of low–credit applicable in this situation. I was getting worried, thinking maybe she’s in trouble or maybe sick. Finally, I send her a text message asking how she has been doing and so on…and still no reply. After that, I just stop trying… I just STOP!
The think about this whole situation is that no matter how angry I am at her behavior or how frustrated I get with her treatment, I still forgive her in the end. She just said sorry and gives some lame excuse and I would forgive her and drop the subject instead of probing it further. * Sigh… No matter how much she hurt me, I still forgive her and go on as if nothing happen. When would it be I be able to say enough to her and demand that she‘ll be more sensitive with other people’s feeling.
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